How to Introduce the Use of Sex Toys to Your Man

Here is another great article by our very own Dr. Simple.

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How to Introduce the Use of Sex Toys to Your Man
So many men and women have written in to our site requesting information about how to approach the subject of purchasing sex toys when they are already in a relationship with a man. Indeed, this stigma seems to exist that sex toys are only for single people and, more specifically, single middle aged women. This attitude is particularly true when it comes to men. Reality is, however, that adult novelty products are used to enhance and improve sex among all types of couples all the time. Moreover, the demographics of sexual toy users has begun shifting to include all walks of life.


Unfortunately, there is no standard answer that would apply to broaching this subject with all men. But here are some similarities among the male ego that, when addressed, lend itself to a more open mind about sexual toys. The following list represents some hurdles and ideas I hope you will find helpful. Feel free to pick and choose which descriptions and options would work best with your man.


1) Many men believe you should deal with problems alone.
So you may be saying, “who mentioned problem”, but when you ask some men to include sexual toys in their sexual lives many will assume it is because there is a problem with the sex life. For this reason, I would recommend that you begin to broach this subject with your man from a positive perspective. Likewise, be clear with him that the toy you wish to introduce is not intended to make up for a problem in the sex life or, even more important, it is not to replace the need for him. Rather, the toy is meant to make great sex even better and take some of the pressure off him (or you when it comes to pleasing him). Men don’t need help (so they think) and, therefore, you must be very careful with the semantics to not suggest that the toy is to help his performance; even if it is to help him please you.

2) Many men like control.
This is often even truer in the bedroom. Tell him,
or should I say allow him, to control the toy. Let him insert the toy into you and let him move it around and watch you quiver. Make him feel like he is the one delivering the pleasure to you and that the toy he is using is just the mechanism that he is using, much like if it were his own tongue or penis. You can use the toy by yourself later.

3) Many men think they can do it better, like to compete, and don’t like to feel inadequate.
So when you buy that 12 inch mega cock, they realize they can’t even compare. In fact, only about 1-2% of men measure 8 inches or more. If you bring home a 12 inch dildo they will know they cannot even compete with that and will undoubtedly feel inadequate for you. Likewise, you should start with a smaller toy or something that can be shared by both. The massage glove by Fukuoku is one such example. This glove is something that can please him as well or enhance what he does to you, rather than totally replace him in the bedroom. Massage his back and go lower to his penis and balls and he will quickly learn the benefits of sex toys. Let him massage you (remember the idea of him in control) and watch how “he” makes you quiver and grunt; except this time you won’t be faking it.


4) Liberate Yourself.
The keyword here is ‘yourself.” Simply put, men don’t want to see you liberating yourself through the use of a sex toy if they feel the toy will replace them. We know that men with fragile ego’s need to feel needed. If you have such a man, you might want to focus on the aforementioned techniques to help him feel a part of the process. If you really want to cut loose with your toy sometimes that is best done alone. Him seeing you go wild with your toy, and knowing full well it is the toy and not him bringing you the pleasure, could to more damage to your relationship than good.

The examples and suggestions above are only meant as that; suggestions and examples. You know your man better than anyone. The key to bringing a sex toy into a life with a man who is against them initially is usually a slow introduction. Once done, however, men are usually more than happy to continue. We get many comments from men who are quite pleased with the introduction of sex toys into their relationship and they are always amazed at how much fun it can be.

Better Looking and Tasting Semen?

Well while we are on the subject of Semen, Dr. Simple recently published an article about how to improve the look and taste of semen. Below is the full text of this article published by our very own Dr. Simple.

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How to Make Your Semen Look and Taste Better
by Dr. Simple
One of the most popular oral sex topics remains consistent throughout the years; spit or swallow? For many who enjoy sucking on a penis, the question is best answered by the taste of the semen. As a result, men are always asking us at Adult Novelty Company and Simple Desires how to make their semen look and taste better so that it will be enjoyed, and yes, swallowed. There are, in fact, things men can do to achieve better tasting semen. Below are some tips that have been tested and believed to work.

First let us address the issue of texture since texture is often an important aspect of the things we eat. For many men, their semen is clumpy and gooey. Men have asked us how and if it is possible to make their semen more liquid. More liquid semen tends to shoot further and harder (penis exercises also help) too; which is something most men seek to do. The simple answer to the question is your semen is what you eat. If your want your semen to be less clumpy and gooey this can be achieved by taking more Vitamin C and fluids. The Vitamin C and high fluid intake will enable your semen to separate and become more liquid and for many men it will enable them to shoot it further too.

This leads us to the other issue of taste. The good news is the 'you are what you eat' adage also applies to this issue of taste as well. Smokers, for example, tend to have bitter tasting semen. Foods high in alkaline will make your semen taste bitter. Bacon, lobster, red meat, fish, turkey, etc.. are among high alkaline foods you may want to stay away from before oral sex.. Dark green & bitter vegetables like asparagus will also cause semen to taste bitter.

To get rid of the bitter and step into the sweet and tasty, as we state in our Kinky Korner at Simple Desires, pineapple juice will make your semen taste better and more like juice. In fact, most fruit juices will help you achieve better tasting semen. Most fruits are make semen a tasty treat. The simple rule of thumb is that eating healthier will make your semen taste better. Moreover, cheap beers and hard alcohol will often make your semen bitter, while some of the higher quality brews will actually improve the taste.

Now that you know what to eat, the next logical question is how long will it take for the tasty semen to produce after you eat and drink the right things? Of course this varies by the man and their digestive system. In general, a good rule of thumb is to try and start the day before. Although, some men report that a few hours before is all it takes. The best rule of thumb is to determine how long it takes you to digest a big meal and give it, at least, that long.

Sperm, The New Anti-Depressant?

Well working at Adult Novelty Company, Inc. is always quite unique. Dr. Simple is our resident expert on all topics sexual and, because of Dr. Simple, I am always learning new things about sex and sexuality. My friends who work in other corporations learn things such as computer skills and the like. Here at the sex positive Adult Novelty Company/Simple Desires we learn those skills plus a whole lot more.

Dr. Simple recently fielded a question about sperm having anti-depressant properties. Well I learned something new today. There is actually research that suggests that sperm does have anti-depressant properties. Well talk about natural cures!

Dr. Simple really is a wealth of information that I always learn something new from.

The Great Sex Austrian Sex Toy Escape

Here is a great story out of Krems, Austria. Reported by metro.co.uk. on Tuesday April 3, 2007.

Aparently a gang of theives who had robbed a sex shop in Krems, Austria were successfully able to elude police in a high speed chase. The theives, who were driving a white van, were able to loose the police during a high speed chase. The report states that this escape was possible because the theives had thrown, among other items, sex toys and vibrators at the police car. In response, the police had to steer around these objects to avoid an accident and the criminals got away. One might argue that the criminals lost this battle since they had to sacrifice their toys and future pleasures.

Well this is not the recommended use of our sex toys, but it sure is an interesting story.

Boy Do We Have Balls...

We often get questions about Ben-Wa-Balls so this seemed like an interesting issue to post about. For starters, our customers who use them love them and those who do not undertand them think that they are somewhat weird. As always, we suggest you be a little open minded and try them for yourself and decide. You know, "Step out of the Ordinary..." Of course you might need some information on how to use them.

Ben-Wa-Balls can be inserted into either the vagina or anus. As you move, the balls serve to provide subtle stimulation to the region. The balls will slowly build up and tease you to sexual arousal when they are inserted and moved around. In addition, Ben-Wa-Balls are also used to build Kegal muscles which will, in turn, heighten sexual satisfaction and your ability to use the muscles in that region. Sounds fun, right?

The benefits of Ben-Wa-Balls, however, are not just sexual in nature. They have been credited with preventing some of the symptoms of aging. These include stregthening muslces and reducing incontinence, prolapses, and elasticity of the area they are inserted in.

Of course, we think Dominique Eastwick provides the best explanation in her steaming hot erotic story, "The Balls", which can be found in our steamy erotica section.

Protect Free Speech!

One of the issues that we face here at Adult Novelty Company, Inc. is threats to free speech. We are always monitoring the impact this can have on our industry. Of the many organizations that serve to protect this issue, The Free Speech Coalition, remains on the forefront of this issue.

The Free Speech Coalition remains in a proactive battle to protect free speech in the adult industry on a regular basis. I strongly encourage our fans to check out this site and support them in any way you can.

No Orgasm Allowed!

While it is hard for many of us to believe, in some states the Attorney General has nothing better to do than to prevent orgasms. Specifically, they enforce laws that are against “any device designed or marketed as useful primarily for the stimulation of human genital organs.” Of course this is not something we can even fathom in the state of Vermont, but this, and the impact it has on on our industry, is what makes me feel compelled to post about it.

Our friends in Alabama are subject to the Attorney General, Bill Pryor, attempting to control how they have orgasms. Challanging the law and the belief that such devices comprimise morals, SHERRI WILLIAMS; B.J. BAILEY; et al., has been challanging this law for years now. Ms. Wiliams has filed suit after suit challanging the constitionality of such laws. As a result, this issue now finds itself all the way up to the U.S. Supreme Court which, at present, declined to consider the constitionality of the case.

For more information on SHERRI WILLIAMS; B.J. BAILEY; et al., v. BILL PRYOR, in his official capacity as )
the Attorney General of the State of )
Alabama, click here >>>

According to AVN Magazine, Texas and Mississippi are also among the orgasm preventing states.